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This is happening just up the road from me! Apparently, according to my local authorities, the ‘right’ of men to ‘get laid’ (rape) trumps the rights of women to be protected from violence under the law. Sorry, but that’s just sick. East Sussex County Council is concerned about the rights of the vulnerable? It’s a given that women/girls – and men/boys, come to that – who enter prostitution are amongst the most vulnerable of our citizens. It’s their health and wellbeing we need to be protecting – not the spurious ‘needs/rights’ of a bunch of dirty old men, disabled or not!

ann tagonist

An investigation was launched today after a care home admitted inviting inpurchasing prostitutes womento offer sexual services to be raped by disabled male residents.

The street workers women regularly meet with vulnerable guests men for sex sessions to be raped– known in the home as a ”special visit”.

Staff have been ordering the prostitutes women by phone who then visit disabled residents at Chaseley, a nursing home caring for 55 people in Eastbourne, Sussex.

Sex workers Prostituted women meet residents men in a special room and a red sock is put on the door handle so staff know not to disturb them.

Bosses say many physically and mentally disabled people men have no other sexual outlet – and become so frustrated they often resort to  groping female staff.

Care workers say the ”sex surrogates slaves” are ”therapeutic” and experts claim…

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4 responses »

  1. This doesn’t surprise me. I’ve long known that men consider access to women’s bodies a ‘human right’. I like women’s bodies, but I wouldn’t consider a buying a prostitute, ever. The idea of having sex with someone who is not interested in me is one of the most disgusting things I can think of. I would have no right to one if I was in a nursing home. I don’t know why having a penis makes everything so much different. I don’t know how men can turn off that part of the brain that would stop me from using a prostitute.

    Related to this story, I know a guy with cerebral palsy who gets his carer to pay for prostitutes out of his care budget. He also likes groping women in public, and he gets away with it because of his condition.

  2. Working in a care environment, I have thoughts about this that I’m wary of publicising on my blog, well, anywhere. Since this story broke it seems – and this just points up some ignorance/naivity on my part – that this practice is pretty widespread: there’s even a fancy name for it: ‘sex surrogacy’.How messed-up is that?

    I’ve never been attracted to the idea of using prostitutes – even got quite hot under the collar/riteous towards other men who have – but have used pornography for most of my life (since around age 12) and only stopped relatively recently – and never really made the connection til I read Dworkin. So I guess I’m not in a great position to be moralising to anyone – but I can honestly say that the thought of sex being a ‘human right’ never consciously entered my head; and from my currently – slightly – elevated position I find the idea deeply scary. How can we even prosecute prosecute a guy for rape if the law tells us (men, or straight men anyway – how this might be interpreted for women or gay men is anyone’s guess…) we have a ‘right’ to sex… insane.

    Thanks for your comment, Pikuthulu.

  3. hi Guls, i thought you were a woman from the various supportive comments I’ve seen from you…fantastic! This is the first time I do disagree with you though. I believe that sexual expression is a human right – it’s expression is more primal and important than speech, and we riot over that one constantly! It is a no-brainer for me: There ought to be the right of the male or female, or one in between to express their sexuality – the problem right now is that the default is only one way – only young, white, middle-class and up, heterosexual males are allowed to express their somehow apparently homogeneous sexuality, and it is their right to do so.

    What about women, or trans-gendered folks? What about bi-sexual, multi-sexual, pan-sexual, or homosexual, or asexual people? They ought to have the right to their happiness too, there needs to be room for those because those people also exist… and the super-sexual people that are driven to exercise deep knowledge of the sexual arts in their own right, or for profit, ought to have those rights to do so as well. Their right to express the relationship to their sexuality is just as important as your right to seek and demand personal appreciation as prerequisite for sexual relations. These are all various ways to relate to sexuality, and if we can dispel the brainwash that stigmatizes our various sexualities in their complexities, I think exploitation from it would be more difficult/ perhaps less wide-spread in the ‘choice-less communities’ so we could move forward with pornography as art, and prostitution as healing or entertainment… be at peace with our sexualities and enjoy them instead of repressing them, and/or selling some strange idea of it on billboards without thought for the systems and industries we are driving…

  4. Hi Sandra, thanks for your comment, I appreciate your nuanced reading of a right to sexual expression. I wonder, then, are we talking about quite the same thing? If you mean the right to express our sexuality in a way that’s right for us – as in changing the law to permit homosexual relations, for instance – then I’m totally with you. What I find problematic is the idea that men – in this case – feel entitled to have sex as a matter of course. It wasn’t long ago that women’s consent was taken as read as part of the marriage contract, which is clearly wrong. This is the kind of ‘right’ that I object to, and which seemed to be implied in the ann tagonist piece. If the guys in the care home were sexually-assaulting staff then they need to be pulled up on that: calling in sex-workers smacks of just passing the buck to me, potentially onto the disenfranchised and vulnerable; or more disenfranchised and vulnerable, should I say.

    Which is not to stigmatize ALL sex workers as such: I accept that some people can make the choice to work in the sex-industry of their own free will, and I applaud those who support them to make that work as safe as possible. I confess, I’ve never been tempted to buy sex from a prostitute; I have used pornography, though; and – trigger warning – one of the things that put me off was the increasing prevalence of overt hostility towards women: strangling, choking, pinning down, spitting on, ‘rough’ sex, sex with women who are asleep or intoxicated: not sexy, and increasingly hard to avoid if you’re surfing for online porn. A couple channels that kept popping up were ’18 and Abused’ and ‘Daughter Destroyers’, for example. There was a case of a guy who got done for murder down here – in Brighton – who reportedly frequented sites including ‘HangingBitches.com’ and ‘RapePleasure.com’; there are also lots of sites that show ‘revenge’ porn and hidden camera footage from toilets, locker rooms etc… If this is the kind of stuff we get to see then I dread to think what what we don’t: as much as I like to believe in free sexual expression this sort of thing is telling me something about what men find – or are supposed to find – sexy, and about the current sexual political climate and I don’t like it: in fact, I don’t even want to look too closely because what if I do like it? Is this what men are supposed to like?

    You’re totally right when you say there ought to be room to express sexuality in ways that are healing, spiritual and artistic; it’s just that as things stand, I too often see it expressed in ways that are hostile, domineering and cheapening. In the current political climate, I really don’t know how best we can legislate for that.

    Here’s a couple links:

    http://sarahgetscritical.com/2013/01/27/the-barbie-labiaplasty-cosmetic-surgery-and-the-influence-of-porn/

    http://bugbrennan.com/2013/02/07/men-will-stick-their-dicks-in-anything/

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